As promised earlier, I will share some of my experiences with retirement. I have adjusted fairly well to retirement, but it seems my dreams haven’t always got the message that I’m not at work anymore. Most are not so much directly linked as if I am at my desk at work. They more often involve helping people and my former profession gets involved at some point. More than anything I guess it is my subconscious adjusting, and almost like with the loss of someone to death, including them, or, in this case it. I know I’m not the only person whose dreams include a dearly departed as if they never died.
At one point my goal was to retire at 50, so retirement just after my 60th birthday should not be any great shock to my system. As my fellow Write Teamer, Karen Roth, retired at the same age, it shouldn’t seem strange to me. My wife retired at an even younger age. So, I guess it is just my mind adjusting after nearly 38 years in the same profession. Shortly before retiring, while wondering how I would adjust, I had an experience where I was totally calm and paid attention to how warm and beautiful it was near the front step of my house. It really put my mind at ease and helped me look forward to retirement instead of worrying how others would handle my job responsibilities.
The recent death of a former co-worker, Mafia Mike, as the kids referred to him — will that help my dreams move on or will they mourn for his loss? We will see. Or maybe COZI TV switching their lineup so I can’t watch Adam 12 and Emergency every weekday morning will help my subconscious not be edged toward troubling situations. Maybe, but I’ll still miss these shows from years ago that addressed so many social problems with great insight, that with a slight upgrading still are problems today. I’m sure glad that we have Blue Bloods that addresses some of these problems along with a wonderful family element. A little more about television and the good it can do I hope to include in another column.
Yes, my retirement includes a little more television viewing than before I retired, at least until recently. I have adjusted perhaps a little better than many men when they retire by adjusting to the “down-time,” and not feeling worthless if I am not accomplishing all the time. I really wonder if this is why I see men in obituaries shortly after they retire.
Resuming reading books — that I really hadn’t done much in many years — also fills the time. It is great to learn more in these books about great sports figures that I really didn’t know that much about. Reading about Walter Payton (yes, a Packer fan can appreciate Sweetness), Roberto Clemente, Vince Lombardi and more to come, has given me more appreciation of these great men and their causes outside sports.
Enough about my retirement for now, and I hope my words might help some who are dreading the end of their career.
RODNEY VERDINE, hated by his brother-in-law, loved by many others — including his wife of 37 years, Marie — can be reached through email@example.com.